QUITTER INS & OUTS

Setting The Tone For 2024

If you’ve been following CQ for a while, you know how serious I am when it comes to setting intentions.

So, what are your intentions for 2024?

Some people like to choose a word or a phrase (mine is Peace & Prosperity).

Some even create a whole mood board that represents the energy, archetype, and opportunities they’re bringing and harnessing this new year (you can creep some of my ‘energetic’ boards HERE).

But one of the trends that I recently stumbled upon and LOVED is an In vs. Out list.

What are you no longer accepting?

And what are you creating space for?

Here are some that I brainstormed for us Quitters:

INS:

Saying yes to things that excite, but scare the sh*t out of me

Accepting help when offered

Getting carried away with my ideas

Proudly telling people I’m building a business

Letting myself be weird af

Acknowledging my knowledge, skills & abilities

Prioritizing play every day

Trusting myself more

Finishing projects

Backing my business and creative process in such a big way that people could never ignore

OUTS:

Being a “responsible adult”

Overstimulation

Saying yes to things I want to say no to

Using an alarm clock

Working after 5pm (unless it’s on something I LOVE)

Skipping or delaying meals to keep working

Judging my journey

Framing my ‘untraditional path’ as reckless

Hustling for worthiness

Tolerating people, places, jobs, and experiences that bring me pain or unhealthy discomfort to ‘keep the peace’

To contribute to the discussion of what’s IN vs OUT amongst our community of Quitters, click HERE 👈

Which one of these inspired you? What are your INS and OUTS for 2024?

BOOKS TO READ

I read almost 45 books in 2023, and truthfully, aside from one, none of them really changed my life (though not surprising because I mostly read fiction since my mental health was hanging by a thread and I needed some escapism 🫠).

Here’s a list of books (affixed with their lessons) that I’ve read since the beginning of my Quitter Journey that’s helped me TREMENDOUSLY:

🎨 The Artist Way - Helped me creatively recover from ‘adulting’ and taught me how to embrace (and monetize) all forms of my creative expression

🎉 Year of Yes - Taught me how to say YES to more experiences in life

💋 Rated X: How Porn Liberated Me From Hollywood - Taught me how to boldly move forward as I carve MY OWN untraditional path (and validated where I’m currently at)

🍎 The Go-Giver - Taught me how to understand and communicate my value better (thus making more money, creating better relationships, etc)

💰 The Having - Taught me how to practice acknowledging what I have (time, money, or energy), practice gratitude for it, and as a result, create more of it

🧘‍♀️ The Surrender Experiment - Taught me how to let go of my personal preferences and simply let life call the shots (to create flow)

Have any book recommendations to share? What books are you looking forward to reading next year?

CHATGPT

As you ease into this New Year, it’s important to take into account your goals for 2024 AND reflect (if you haven’t already) on what did or didn’t you accomplish in 2023 and WHY.

After, you can use ChatGPT to help you lay the groundwork for 2024 goals with actionable steps.

Below is a money-related example.

Feel free to tweak the prompt below based on your money, time, and energetic restrictions.

Prompt of the Week:

PODCAST

HELP! I’m burnt out and don’t know what to do about it 😫

We’ve got you!

In this episode, Laura Von Wahlde, a certified Career & Burn Out Coach, and I discuss the negative consequences of overworking and societal expectations that often glorify burnout, placing it on a pedestal as something that shows dedication and success.

Laura provides insights on recognizing and distinguishing between stress and burnout.

She also suggests ways to cope with both, emphasizing the importance of emotional regulation, setting boundaries, learning to slow down, and creating an intentional healing time.

We also discuss when to quit a job, the right reasons to do so, and strategies to avoid repeating patterns that lead to stress and burnout.

Are you already feeling the burn this year? What are you putting in place to heal your burnout?

$10K MONTHS

I did it. I hit the $10k month threshold after 3 years of experimenting… and this is how it happened:

I hired my business strategist, Mike, in October knowing that I needed someone to kick my ass because I was wallowing in my sh*t for far too long.

I owe much of the momentum I’ve built over these past few months to him (Mike, you’re the shiiiiit).

When we were celebrating in December, he had asked me:

“What was the thing that *actually* moved the needle?”
And here’s what I told him:

In hindsight, 3 years is NOT a long time to hit $10k/mo.

In fact, most people (whether in Corporate or business), never achieve something like that.

I’m beyond grateful I stuck it out to see the rewards finally start returning.

But after 3 years filled with pivoting a gazillion times, building my savings only to bleed it dry over and over again while trying out the next experiment, and all the while doing almost everything on my own, I was seriously at a breaking point.

WHEN THE F*CK WAS IT GOING TO HAPPEN.

Turns out it could have happened a really long time ago had I just stopped avoiding my gifts and got over my damn self.

I was so fixated on my offers, services, and products being perfect that I wasn’t actively selling ANYTHING.

People were screaming for my help, but I was too afraid of failing them that I just defaulted to failing myself instead (I’d rather hold the pain than inflict it on others).

I was too busy hiding.

I was SO hyper-aware of what I LACKED in terms of skills, abilities, and knowledge (and had a few looming judgemental thoughts from ex-friends, colleagues, and boyfriends) that I couldn’t acknowledge what I HAD.

And if I couldn’t see what value I could bring into the world, the impact I’ve already had on millions (literally), you bet your ass I was stuck af.

I’m SO beyond grateful that over the past 3 years, everything was inbound - brand deals, Quitter clients, freelance & consulting clients, etc.

I didn’t chase anyone or sell anything directly until this past month (more on being a money magnet in a future podcast episode with Whitney Magic) and yet I still was bringing in recurring revenue.

Now that I see the impact on my community when I help them (and as a result in my bank account, which then goes right back into creating more dope sh*t for all of y’all), I’m extremely excited about my future and the future of CQ.

I cracked the code.

But jokes on me, because the solution was right in front of me the whole time.

Where are you standing in your own way? In what ways are you going to practice ‘getting over yourself’ and just do the damn thing?